Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” -- Maxwell Maltz
Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have incredible self-confidence, it’s because he or she has worked on building it for years. Self-confidence is something that you learn to build up because the challenging world of business, and life in general, can deflate it. When bombarded by so many elements that threaten our self-confidence, we need to take charge of building it up for ourselves. Without further ado, let's delve into 6 things or ways that can help boost your confidence
1. Do one thing that scares you every day.
“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” -- T. Harv Eker
The best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. By doing something that scares you every day and gaining confidence from every experience, be it talking to that new hot girl in your class, you might get rejected but you will have this sense of fulfilment in you that at least you tried, or skydiving with your friends, try this one thing that makes you scared(anxious) once and you will see your self-confidence soar. So get out of your comfort zone and face your fears!!
2. Care for yourself.
“Self-care is never a selfish act -- it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.” -- Parker Palmer
Self-confidence depends on a combination of good physical health, emotional health and social health. It is hard to feel good about yourself if you hate your physique or constantly have low energy.
Make time to cultivate great exercise, eating and sleep habits. In addition, dress the way you want to feel and don't let other people critic about the way you look or dress demotivate you but rather, let it serve as motivation to you. You have heard the saying that “clothes make the man.” Build your self-confidence by making the effort to look after your own needs.
3. Set personal boundaries.
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”-- Harvey Fierstein
Learn to say no. Teach others to respect your personal boundaries. Dont let anyone dictate how your way should go, give yourself that sense of freedom. The more control and say that you have over your own life, the greater will be your self-confidence.
4. Stop Comparing Yourself
Whether you compare how you look to your friends on Facebook or you compare your salary to your friend’s income, comparisons aren’t healthy. In fact, a 2018 study published in Personality and Individual Differences found a direct link between envy and the way you feel about yourself.
Researchers found that people who compared themselves to others, experienced envy. And the more envy they experienced, the worse they felt about themselves. It can be a vicious cycle.
Pay attention to times when you compare your wealth, possessions, skills, achievements, and attributes. Thinking that other people are better or have more will erode your confidence in yourself.
When you notice you are drawing comparisons, remind yourself that doing so isn’t helpful. Everyone is running their own race and life isn’t a competition whether you compare how you look to your friends on Facebook or Instagram or you compare your salary to your friend’s income, comparisons aren’t healthy. In fact, a 2018 study published in Personality and Individual Differences found a direct link between envy and the way you feel about yourself. Researchers found that people who compared themselves to others, experienced envy. And the more envy they experienced, the worse they felt about themselves. It can be a vicious cycle.Pay attention to times when you compare your wealth, possessions, skills, achievements, and attributes. Thinking that other people are better or have more will erode your confidence in yourself.When you notice you are drawing comparisons, remind yourself that doing so isn’t helpful. Everyone is running their own race and life isn’t a competition
5. Perform Behavioral Experiments
When your brain tells you that you have no business speaking up in a meeting or that you are too out of shape to work out, remind yourself that your thoughts aren’t always accurate. And sometimes, the best way to deal with negative self-talk is by challenging those statements.
Try doing things that your brain tells you that you can’t.7 Tell yourself it’s just an experiment and see what happens.
You might learn that being a little anxious or making a few mistakes isn’t as bad as you thought. And each time you move forward you can gain more confidence in yourself.
Word From Instadoses
Everyone struggles with confidence issues at one time or another. But if your self-confidence issues interfere with your work, your social life, or your education, seek professional help.
Sometimes, low self-confidence stems from a bigger issue, like a traumatic event from the past. At other times, it may be a symptom of a mental health problem.
And it is possible to have too much confidence. If you’re overly confident in your abilities, you might not take action.
Being overconfident about your ability to ace a test might prevent you from studying. Or assuming that you don’t need to practice a presentation could cause you to be unprepared.
So it’s important to have a healthy dose of self-confidence that helps you perform at your peak.
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